We all know that fear keeps us from doing things. Fear is important. It keeps us safe. It tells us not to pet the cute bear in the woods or follow the stranger into the dark alley.
Fear can also limit us from doing things that will help us grow and flourish. Taking risks can be scary and uncomfortable at first. We can come up with all sorts of excuses to stay in our comfort zone. But that’s not what life is about. Ok, it is a little bit (I also love my comfort zone) but trying new things, exploring new places, and experiencing new things is what will help you learn about yourself. You’re actually a lot braver than you think. Give yourself some credit! I’ve been a full time boudoir photographer in Atlanta for almost a decade and it’s given me a lot of insight about my clients fears and insecurities. Here are some hurdles my clients think they have:
“I don’t have the time to do a photoshoot just for me.”
You do. You need to make time for yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup. None of the prep before your session is mandatory and I completely understand if it’s difficult to make time for a haircut, nail appointment, and shopping for new outfits. Yes, you could use that time to clean your house or take the kids to practice. But will taking a few hours to pamper yourself really cause the world to crumble? It might feel like it but I can assure you that your well being deserves some attention. The laundry can wait. The session itself is only 3 hours out of your busy schedule and the confidence boost is worth its weight in gold!
This is me giving you permission to slow down and be present in your life. You get to decide how to spend your time. Spend some of it on you.
“My body doesn’t look the way I want it to.”
It is extremely rare that I have a client without one single insecurity. In fact, I don’t think it’s ever happened. Even the most confident person is still human. Insecurities don’t start or stop at any particular weight. We have to acknowledge them and push through them.
I am highly experienced in this field and have worked with clients of every shape and size. My clients aren’t models. They aren’t trained in posing. I direct them. I even wrote a guide for other photographers on how to properly pose and light clients! Flattering photos are all about angles, lighting, posing, and energy. I take care of all of that for you. You just have to show up!
“I’m not sexy enough.”
There’s a lot to unpack here. First, sexy doesn’t just mean one thing. Sexy is how you feel. For one person that could mean delicate lingerie and heels. Someone else might feel better in sweats, a crop top, and a messy bun. Anyone can feel sexy and some exploration in what that means for you is key. You can be flirty and sweet or a straight up sex goddess. How about a mix of both? Player’s choice!
Working full time or taking care of others can make it really hard to make feeling sexy a priority. Over time it’s put on the back burner and replaced with other things. Years can go by without feeling that spark for ourselves. A boudoir session can tether that part of yourself back to the present.
“It’s expensive and I shouldn’t spend the money on myself.”
A professional photoshoot can be expensive. Investing in a boudoir session can be intimidating when you’ve never done anything like this before! Is it worth it?
It is. Not only will it make your confidence soar, just the fact that you put the time and effort into having this experience for yourself tells your subconscious that you are worth self love and affection. Self love is a powerful tool that you will feel the ripples of in everything you do. While a boudoir session isn’t the only thing that can give it to you, it is a pretty good step in the right direction. Being photographed is a way to tell yourself, “I am here. I am present. I exist. I am worthy.”
Spend your money on things that matter to you. You should matter to you.
We can set up an auto payment plan if you’re like me and like paying in small chunks. We also offer Affirm and Afterpay as other options to make it easy!
Our professional boudoir photography studio is in Canton, Georgia. We have clients travel to us for a boudoir photoshoot from Atlanta, Woodstock, Marietta, Alpharetta, Roswell, Acworth, Kennesaw, Buckhead, Cumming, and many other surrounding cities and states!